Office relationships?

I work in a professional real estate office in CA and there is a co-worker of mine who is married and he continues to hit on me. I wouldnt so much call it sexual harrassment but he got my phone number and email off the company roster and now Im getting phone calls and emails from him on a regular basis. He says stuff like he wants to take me to the Amalfi coast and Germany. He calls and invites me to lunch and in a horrible way its actually charming. How do I tell him that I appreciate the compliments but your married. When saying exactly that doesnt work?Office relationships?
Have your Human Resource department take care of it for ya!!
STALKER mentality!! Watch out for this guy......he's not right. Your first brush off should have been enough for a normal guy.Office relationships?
be honest! say what is in you heart. If you are not interested let him you you do not appreaciate the way he speaks to you. If you are attracted talk to him and see where it leads..there are 2 sides to every story.

good luck
Tell him he better not ever run for a political office or you will have to tell is sordid tale to the reporterd trying to dig up dirt from his past.



Seriously, Be as aggressive in telling him NO as he is in pursueing you. It is totally unethical for him to get your number and e-mail for personal use. That is sexual harrassment if you are not instigating it and are not receptive to it.



You could always say in front of his wife how much you enjoy his e-mails but you wish he would not spend so much time sending you " forwards". She will stop it!
Youy may have to be a little more firm with him. Tell him you do not get involved with married men.. or heck even men who have girlfriends and that he needs to back off. It may not be sexual Harrassment per say, but it is harrassment. He shouldn't be getting your # without your permission... This is totally a "stalker" situation. Be careful... it's too dangerous out there and you must be aware of people like that.
Do you have his home number? (if not, get it) If you really want to get rid of him, tell him sure, lunch would be great - you will let his wife know where to meet and you are looking forward to meeting her. Or just ask him all about his wife - ending with, I think we (you and his wife) will be really good friends. If that does not work - save a voice message or email and tell him if he does not present a more professional front and stop making you uncomfortable, you *will* enlist the help of his wife (or a manager, if necessary)
You can always tell him you're soo sorry but you've gotten very seriously involved with someone and leave it at that. No details. Tell him nothing else.



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Just ignore the emails and if you have caller id.... ignore his calls.





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ask if his wife would be coming along ... that you'd really like to meet her !
I would just tell him that I dont date people that I work with. That should do it... or at least start to get rid of him, PLUS office relationships RARELY work... Its really hard to date someone you work with and also if it doesnt work out then you are stuck seeing that person EVERY day unless one of you decides to change jobs or relocate to a different office or something... it makes life alot harder than it needs to be PLUS there are so many single people in the world you really can find someone outside the workplace.
Call up his wife and tell her you don't want to go to dinner with him... and ask her to tell him not to send you email as you receive enough junk mail already... That should curtail his activities...
Honestly is quite the key. It could hurt feelings, but it is the best way to do it. Let him know that you do not appriciate the fact that he is married and constantly hits on you in an inappropriate manner. Things like this happen alot in offices, and you must remind him that he is at a professional state and this is not the way to do it. Also, what kind of married man is this? I feel terribly sorry for his wife and if any, his children. Just professionaly and calmy tell him that his acts are inappropriate in the office as well as on himself.